Sponsors are OA members who are living the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions to the best of their ability. They are willing to share their recovery with other members of the Fellowship and are committed to abstinence. We ask a sponsor to help us through our program of recovery on all three levels: physical, emotional and spiritual. By working with other members of OA and sharing their experience, strength, and hope, sponsors continually renew and reaffirm their own recovery. Sponsors share their program up to the level of their own experience. Ours is a program of attraction. To find a sponsor, go to meetings or join an email loop and look for someone who has what you want, then ask how he or she is achieving it, then ask, "Would you be my sponsor?" A member may work with more than one sponsor and may change sponsors at will. It is to your advantage to find someone you want to help you. The sooner you start working with someone, the better you will work the program.
The Twelve Qualities of Sponsorship
As your Sponsor...
I will try to help you move and grow as you take the actions, and I will try not to let you stay and wallow in limbo.
I will share my experience, strength, and hope as you grow and become more productive, by your definition.
I will try to help you become more autonomous, more loving of yourself,more excited, less sensitive, more free to become the authority for your own living.
I will hear your dreams and support you in finding your own dreams without trying to "fix you up."
I will support you as you find your way to grow, move forward, and face the reality of your own life.
I will support you as you learn how to face and deal with your loneliness and your pain.
I will listen while you evaluate your goals and while you work to find what is best for you in your own world.
I will encourage you to make the vital decision of choosing the frightening uncertainty of growing over the safe misery of remaining static.
I will support you and try to understand and know you as a rich and growing friend, hoping that you will allow me to come close to you.
I will support you and try never to lose faith in you and your desire to follow your own higher power and find your path to recovery.
I will be with you and "hang in there" with you so long as I continue to get even the slightest hint that you are trying to grow.
Together we will help each other become what God meant us to be happy, joyous, and free, mature adults, leaving childishness forever to the little children of the world.